By hendzen
I’ve had multiple phases of my life where I’ve done most things alone. Months where I’ve gone eating almost every meal alone. Multi-day periods where I didn’t have a conversation with another person. Honestly, there were times I felt bad about it, but most of the time I was alone – but not lonely.
Currently I have a pretty active social life – I rarely eat alone, I have a wide circle of friends and date fairly actively (I am still single though :/). I think the best way to break out is to make a habit of trying to do things you haven’t done before. Whether it’s some athletic pursuit (tennis, rock climbing, etc.) or maybe getting involved in your community (volunteering, religious groups), modern society offers plenty of venues for meeting people. You say you’re in college so for you it might be as simple as joining a club.
Now even though I have ample opportunity to be around other people, I still choose to be alone some times. After a day spent with a group I usually need an hour or so alone to “recharge” – I guess I’m just naturally introverted.
Finally, allow me quote the following poem by Walt Whitman.
To You.
STRANGER! if you, passing, meet me, and desire to speak to me,
why should you not speak to me?
And why should I not speak to you?
Read more here: https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=10653715
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